Conceptualising the Alpha

What is an alpha?

Alpha is more than just a set of physical traits. Physical traits do play a role, but that's not it. Desirable physical traits are known to everyone. Like you gotta have money, gotta dress good, be fit blah blah. These things are necessary irrespective of alpha or not alpha. But, there is a world beyond that.

Alpha is a mindset.

A simp offering a flower in a way will spark a very different instinctive reaction than an alpha offering the same flower in the same way to the same person. The differences would be in the way of eye-contact, facial expression, a score of different body-language tells. But, the most fundamental difference would be in the intent. A simp offering flower would be expecting something in return. Phone number, kiss, getting laid or whatever. An alpha offering a flower would do it just for the sake of it. He doesn't want anything. He is fulfilled. His offering of flower is an offer for the woman if she wants to be a part of his dazzling world. If she does, good for her; he doesn't care. If she doesn't, loss for her; he doesn't care. He sells people on him.

When an alpha speaks, he isn't speaking for anyone to like him or dislike him or buy him or reject him. He is speaking because he wants to put forth his point because he thinks the world will benefit from his views. He is always in the zone of being a benefit to the world. He doesn't need anything from the world. This isn't from a beta-provider mindset who's expected to give and give, without expecting anything in return. A beta-provider does this as a sacrifice of his self-interest. An alpha isn't sacrificing his self-interest. As said above, he is fulfilled. He is merely offering himself with nothing attached to it. A flower.

An alpha enjoys sexual tension and the attraction-phase with a woman just for its own sake. When he is flirting or sexting with a woman, he isn't looking to do anything beyond what he is doing. He wants to get into bed, of course. But whether or not that happens is immaterial to him. He's enjoying the sexual tension phase as much. The platonic phase, the uncomfortable humour phase, the 24/7 texting phase; he enjoys them all. Each one of them is an adventure in and of itself, and they all connect to the larger adventure of attracting a woman. If things go to shit, he will enjoy it just as much.

Rejections and failures don't define him, just as confessions and successes don't either. He will narrate the story of his most extravagant sexual experience (or any experience, for that matter) and the most terrible experience with the same levels of confidence and self-assurance. A woman sleeping with him, and a woman rejecting him, are both part of the fun and thrill of the life of the alpha. He isn't trying to seduce his way into anything. He is seducing because he is seducing. “A seducer sees the whole world as his bedroom.”

An alpha will have a set of algorithmic ways to open people. “Pickup lines,” as they're popularly called. But, movies have a terrible way of portraying them. They show it like this one magical line that sweeps all women across spacetime. That's not how the algorithm begins. A pickup line is to illicit a deeply personal reaction from the other person. It's a point of conversation which you know will compel the other person to respond to something from their instincts, not from their brains. It's not a cool sounding line, all the time. Often times it's a very standard sentence that gets the woman's eyeballs enlarge or shrink. It could be a question even. However, it can't be a routine question like, “where do you live?” It has to be something abstract and playful to get her instincts to work.

For an alpha, the entire point of conversation is to know the other person. It's to help her fill her emotional voids. It's to sell her on him. Alphas don't talk about themselves. They make other people talk -- not their life details, but their emotional pain points, and their instinctive reactions. Getting a person to operate purely based on instincts is the sexiest thing in the world, because modern world is made to suppress all instincts. However, beware, you have no idea what demons people are suppressing. You may not be able to deal with some of them. But, that's the adventure of being the alpha. He can cuddle unconscious demons. An alpha makes his woman hide her demons on him. As the legendary Imagine Dragons song lyrics goes:

“When you feel my heat.

Look into my eyes.

It's where my demons hide.

It's where my demons hide.”

An alpha is a dazzler. He enchants people around him. He makes people feel special -- positively or negatively. People want to be around him. They're addicted. They don't all like him. But, they're all dazzled by him. Some want to be like, “he's my friend.” Others would be like, “he's piece of shit.” But, all will have something on him; all will want to have something on him. They all want a piece of him. He is the man everybody looks upto whenever something startling happens -- good or bad. They all draw their reactions juxtaposing him. They all want to know what he's thinking or feeling. They want to know his reaction. His opinion.

An alpha has a superior sense of beauty and aesthetics. He'll love the snowy Swiss Alps, and the sunny Mediterranean, in complete different ways, and with a very different sense of attraction. He's admiration of greenery would be different from his admiration of city lights. He'll love both of them, however. Just as he would love both getting laid and not getting laid. A nightclub will mean different, from an early morning drive to a suburb. A semi-casual jeans, blazer and sneakers, will have a different use from a fully casual outfit or a completely informal outfit. His ideology, his tastes, aren't results of political propaganda, but of his own instinctive nature. Of course, instincts are shaped by media, education, circle, everything, but he isn't constrained by them. Meaning, he won't hesitate to say an unpopular opinion, and he also would not say an unpopular opinion just because it's cool to do so. He is cool, already. World shapes their coolness quotient around him.

An alpha's life has a set structure but a lot of room for spontaneity as well. He has a sense of fashion developed over the years, but above a set structure, there's a lot of room to play for. He has a set timetable, but he allows life to get him to break them as well. This is attractive. A woman wants to test these fluidity. The feminine is fluid. She wants to see if she can flow into his life. If she can, she loves him more. An alpha makes women know more about them being with him than they could ever possibly fathom. A woman feels complete with him. She is more herself for him than she's for herself. Her definition of herself is more complete with his validation. She's the most powerful when she's for him. She is his comfort. He is her strength.

Alphas come in different shades. Bad boys. Good boys. Intelligent ones. Not-so-intelligent ones. Ones who have something to do with everything. Ones who live more private life. Some with strong moral codes. Some with no shame at all. A connecting point of all them is that they're all kind souls. Yes, they are. Manosphere or the wokosphere, no one will tell you this, but it's facts. Ask them for help, and they'll do their best. They want to help the weak. They feel fulfillment in doing so. Their help or advice will be based on their own worldview, hence may not always be desirable for everyone, but they'll be honest and pure in their intent. That's their strength -- being true to their principles and morals. Alpha is the one with his own mental point of origin. Their ways are distinctive. But, the archetypal mindset is the same. The most romantic of lovers, the best of friends, the fiercest of enemies -- choose your position, because the alpha is always present in his.